It is phenomenal and incredibly exciting when I get to sit front and center and see what God is doing and the changes He is implementing in my life as they are happening. Often times we don’t see through our own clouded minds the things He has planned for us. We have to wait until the fog clears to look back and see what all has taken place. But, every so often, we get to catch a glimpse of the Master’s work in progress. And let me tell you, those glimpses are worth so much more than we could ever imagine. They give us hope, they see us through the stressful and frustrating times, and they give us purpose and drive to see the circumstances through, all because we know He is in control.
I set out at a very young age determined to be a driven, focused, and dedicated woman to whichever career path I would choose when the time came. There were a few years there I was determined I would be a prosecuting attorney thanks to a Danielle Steel novel I read and an attorney character I enjoyed watching on General Hospital. Yep. Daytime soaps. I said it. So what? P.S. I haven’t watched any soaps for a few years now, and the lawyer dream was laid to rest before I even finished High School.
In spite of the few years I dreamed of law school and putting the bad guys away, majority of my life centered around two loves: fashion and writing. I planned on attending fashion design school after High School and settling down in New York City, living a life that was career-focused and full of constant work designing trendsetting clothes and high fashion.
Life and my teenage attitude happened, and it didn’t quite work out the way I had planned. I secretly held on to that dream, albeit slightly altered for life course changes, until one day when I found myself a mother of a beautiful little girl with needs and wants all her own. My dream shifted even more until baby number two was born, and I truly realized that the dream of my younger years didn’t fit into the dream of my adulthood. Now, baby number three has been here two years, and I know that, for me, the most important job I’ll ever have is being their mother. 80 hour work weeks and jet setting off to Paris and Milan – while fantastic as they may sound – just aren’t cohesive with the type of mothering I want to be able to do for my children. Plenty of women do, and I don’t hold that against them in any way. We all have our own set of views for what we want for ourselves, but that doesn’t mean that every woman should do it the same way.
While I spent the first few Stay-At-Home-Mom years thinking that was my sole purpose in life – to be a mom and be present in my children’s lives – I eventually found myself longing for something more. I wanted to not only find a way to contribute to our family’s finances, but I wanted, rather I needed, to find a career path so that I could define myself as more than just a mom. Don’t get me wrong, those first few years were vital for me. I needed the time and ability to give sole focus to my kids. I know plenty of women that spend so many more years being a Stay-At-Home-Mom. I also know plenty of other women that love nothing more than being able to continue working outside the home. I find it quite interesting how I can view myself as “just a mom”, but when it comes to other exclusively SAHMs, I view them as so much more. Why do we always downgrade the quality of the picture when its lens is focused on ourselves?
When I set out to discover what it was I wanted to do with myself beyond Mommyhood, I really struggled to nail down a solid idea. Pinterest was still fairly new, so there was a great deal of resources at my finger tips, but it was almost like a brain/idea overload, and I couldn’t focus in on one individual idea. I lacked true direction in discovering not only who I was as an individual but also in what I wanted to do.
The beginning few years were rough with no real solid foundation or business plan. The main focus was simply finding a way to bring in an income without having to give up staying at home with my littles. I bounced a million ideas around in my head, came up with notebooks and binders full of plans, and started a thousand different projects, but none of it yielded any more than temporary results because I didn’t have a plan in place, I didn’t know how to, and I was still on the search for my purpose in life.
After many ventures, successes and failures, which you can read about here, I finally had an awakening of sorts. This past year has been a big eye-opener for me. I truly believe I’m finally coming into myself and am starting to discover just what I was put on this earth for. It’s taken a series of hard hits and banging my head against the same brick wall, but it’s all been worth it to get to where I’m at. I’ve gone from not having a clear plan for my business to putting together a business action plan that I can actually achieve, complete with obtainable goals that have been broken down into bite-sized pieces. I’ve found clarity in who I am and what gifts God blessed me with, whereas before, I couldn’t really tell you where or how I was gifted. Which, we all are, by the way. Yes, even you. And I now have a clear, concise goal for my life and what I want to do with it. All of these things are being used so that I can bring a business together that supplies needed financial stability to our family and will bring change into this world. And the even greater news is: you can have all of these things, too!
Crystal Paine has written a brilliant book entitled Money Making Mom that is an incredible resource to not only finding your way in creating a business that will change your life but will help you discover what you are made of, what gifts you’ve been blessed with, and how you can use those gifts to change the lives of those around you and all over the world.
The book is loaded with inspiration from so many different people and places that made a way for themselves as Money Making Moms. But they didn’t stop there. They were not only good stewards with their money – which God has called us all to be – but they were also generous. They were generous with their time, their talents, and their finances.
This book isn’t about getting rich quick. It’s about discovering who you are and what you have to offer. It’s about realizing that there’s so much more than just making money to have more money. And it’s for anyone, no matter what your current circumstances are; whether you’re struggling to make ends meet right now, whether you’re looking for a way to leave your day job to go after something you love, or if you’re fine financially but trying to pinpoint what you can offer in a business for yourself. Crystal covers the importance of smart financial decisions in your business and personal life. But what I love most is how she reiterates time and again the value in giving to others. The fact is, we’re not leaving this earth with our money or our material belongings, so why do we need to acquire more and give less? We should give more and acquire less. Helping others should always be a main priority in our lives, and I just can’t love it enough that she stresses the importance of giving in this book!
Remember how I told you that I love being front and center to see God make changes in my life? This book was one of those changes I was able to see. Just before I was chosen to be a part of the Launch Team for Money Making Mom, I had made some hard decisions about the direction my business was heading in. I’ve known I want to help others in any way I can, but I hadn’t realized at what capacity yet. I knew I wanted to put my love of writing at the forefront to be used as a platform to help others, but I couldn’t get a grasp on what aspect to display or how to keep from going in too many directions. And I knew I had a passion for sewing that I wanted to translate into teaching others so they could make a difference in their own lives and the lives of others around them, but I couldn’t focus in on my true mission.
God saw all of this. He saw my desire to make a change for not only myself but for others. He saw that I was truly ready to begin this journey and was finally equipped with the motivation and desire it’s going to take to see it through. I could feel God was preparing me for something bigger than I had ever done before, and through these last few months, He has brought me to a place where I’m ready to give it my all and has given me the tools to hit the ground running. One of those very important tools was the Money Making Mom book. Not only did He bring it to the forefront, but at a time when a simple book purchase just couldn’t be swung, He blessed me with the incredible opportunity to be a part of the Launch Team so that I could read it and put the pieces I was missing into place.
What I now have is not only a dream, but a clear-cut vision. And this vision is one I believe wholeheartedly in. I have a business action plan, which is something I’ve never had before and didn’t have the first idea of how to go about it until reading this book. And I’ve developed my mission statement, one that I know will bring me focus, and one that will carry me through the hard times and business struggles so that I can be successful in what I do.
Most importantly, I know how I want to reach out and help others, whether it’s across the street, in another state, or even across the world. And although it will take some work to get beyond the need to make enough to pay the bills, I firmly believe the day will come when I can give to my heart’s desire and then some. And frankly, I can’t wait for that day to come!
If you want to get your copy of Crystal Paine’s book Money Making Mom and find out just how to get started changing your life and the lives of those around you, don’t wait! Believe me when I say you won’t regret it! This book is more than just a how-to for creating a business. It’s a how-to for creating a life of intention and purpose, and that is what we are designed for. Get your copy now here.